At this point, we were told we could read the paper again, then go talk to anyone else in the room. As people drifted to different groups, I read the paper, felt confident in my assessment and stayed put at 6. However, I noticed that more than half of the 6 group went to 9. Hmm, I thought, what’s up with that? Once again, we were offered to read the paper, and go talk to anyone else. As I looked over at the 9 group, I saw two women standing near the wall, and felt an openness from them, a non-judgmental attitude and recognized a softening in my being. I approached them and asked what they knew. They explained how they got to 9 and I immediately joined that group.

It turns out, we were all given the same sentence. And how the brain operates, human eyes tend to skip small words that don’t add to the content or meaning of the sentence, like the, and, a and yes, of. While technically I did the exercise correctly, I saw 6 Fs, there were actually 9 including 3 Fs in the word of. There was much discussion, lots of congratulations to the folks who initially saw all the Fs; more congratulations to the people who immediately went to another group to find the answer, and awe and wonder at the person who included Es as elaborate forms of Fs (and so was in the over 9 group).

What I found fascinating was the lack of acknowledgment of the folks who initially trusted what they saw; who didn’t immediately think they were wrong and had to seek external confirmation as soon as they could. Do we all lack a sense of faith and trust in our own experience that we bail on it as soon as we see other people doing something different?

On the other hand, there is a place where holding onto a belief doesn’t serve us. What’s a spiritual practitioner to do?

The Yoga Sutras offer an answer. To gain what is called “right knowledge” what my teacher defines as reliable and trustworthy information, it has three aspects. The first is direct experience. Direct is the key word. It can’t be clouded by beliefs or assumptions. For instance, I remember growing up and being served scallions, only I called them “little green things.” I tried to pick them out of everything because they looked funny, and they were … green. My suspicion of them doubled when one night I didn’t pick them out, and woke up vomiting at 2 am. I told my mother who was cleaning up that the “little green things” made me sick. She wearily told me that wasn’t true. I had caught a stomach virus. Hmm, my 12 year old self thought, I don’t think so. The story about “little green things” in food being awful stuck.

Fast forward to a few decades later when I took an interest in cooking and lo, I came across scallions again. No longer the tender, doubting 12 year old, I got a chance to experience scallions with new eyes and palate. With the clarity of age and the curiosity of a budding home chef, I began to buy, eat and enjoy scallions with no ensuing sickness. I finally had a direct experience of them without a story about them.

Which brings us to the second aspect of direct knowledge, inference. Had I had access to that skill at age 12, I would have realized that if the “little green things” made me sick, they would have made my entire family sick. We’d have all been up at 2 am making a mess. Inference means not having direct experience but having enough experience to draw an accurate conclusion. Like where there’s smoke, there’s fire (or at least some kind of burning happening). In my case, I could have inferred that my mother was correct. Since I was the only one sick, I could conclude it was not something everyone ate. It was another source.

The last aspect is authoritative testimony. This is where it’s been written down, and passed the test of the ages, or where a trusted source offers wisdom. It’s what rings true, even if there isn’t a direct experience, or more so, absent the building blocks for inference. The Bible (Old and New Testaments), the Koran, the Yoga Sutras, the Tao de Ching, the Bhagavad Gita, the Pali Canon (Buddhist scripture) and many more texts point to the ultimate reality, and so ring true after millennia of time has passed. (Of course, I could have taken my mother to be an authoritative source, but you know how pre-teens are.)

Lest we be bamboozled by TikTok, the worldwide web or any other platforms, the Yoga Sutras make it clear that it is best if all three are present for reliable, trustworthy knowledge. Authoritative testimony on its own might point you in a certain direction, yet, as the Buddha said time and again, don’t trust that alone, have your own experience. Test it out.

Back to the conference. When I stood up to share my experience, and said I was totally fine staying in the 6 group, that I didn’t need anyone external to confirm what I saw, much of the room laughed. I’m guessing they were laughing at my obstinance, my ego-related confidence in knowing I was right. It wasn’t that. What I was saying is that I was confident in my experience. That is, until I inferred a major shift in how other people were seeing it. Even so, I still wouldn’t have been convinced in their epiphany, except, what I saw was two women who had no agenda, no pride in their choice, authoritative testimonies if you will. It was such openness and non-attachment that drew me over to explore what they had seen.

And just as quickly as I had held my 6 ground, I switched to 9 with nary a recrimination. I harbored no guilt or shame, no sheepishness or hesitation. After all, I did the exercise correctly. I only saw 6, and I trusted my capacity to count. And just as equally, I trusted my capacity to be enlightened, to be shown how others saw the same piece of paper in a different way.

In the atmosphere we live in today, there is such little ability, it seems to me, for folks to have honest conversations, to question their own opinions and views, even harder, their beliefs, and open themselves up to new information. Yes, first, trust your own experience. That way, when new information comes in and you test it out, it is much easier to trust the new experience, which may or may not include, changing your mind.

About the Author: Beth Hinnen came to the spiritual path from the corporate world. After experiencing impermanence and greed, she left to study Yoga and has over 1,000 hours in Yoga teacher training, and ended up specializing in the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali, spiritual scripture that closely aligns with Buddhism. From there, she studied Zen Buddhism for over ten years, including in-person, month-long monastic retreats, until she earned certification, in January, 2023, as a Mindfulness and Meditation Teacher with Jack Kornfield and Tara Brach. Currently, Beth is a co-leader of the IMCD Council, and on the Teachers Collective, as administrator. She hosts a Meetup group called Yoga Meets Buddhism, and for the past three years, has held an online Dharma Wednesdays class that discusses the Yoga Sutras while also bringing in Buddhist teachings, along with Sufi poets, Christianity, Judaism and other spiritual paths that reinforce the words of Sri Swami Satchidananda, the founder of Integral Yoga where Beth studied. “The truth is one, the paths are many.” More information about Beth is at www.samayaco.org.

What is Betrayal?

Betrayal is defined as the breaking of trust between two people, organizations, or between people and organizations. It’s the shattering of expectations, beliefs, or worldviews that causes a person to feel some sort of psychological or moral conflict.

What Causes Betrayal?

While the reasons people or organizations betray one another vary, betrayal is typically not personal and is not done to intentionally cause harm. Which might come as quite the shock to someone suffering from betrayal trauma! But betrayal, most often, is not personal. Betrayal is caused by hurt people and the phrase, hurt people, hurt people, is the most accurate description of what really causes betrayal. Being betrayed is part of being human. 

When someone betrays you, it says nothing about you. Although we naturally take betrayal personally, betrayal says more about the person betraying you than it does about you! Betrayal is rarely personal.

Even when it comes to infidelity, people who cheat do so because of their own vulnerabilities, fear, shame or even lack of integrity. They rarely cheat because of you.  

What are Examples of Betrayal?

While one of the most obvious examples of betrayal is infidelity, where a romantic partner cheats by having a physical or emotional relationship with a different partner unbeknownst to the other. Truthfully, romantic betrayal is only part of the story. There may be a financial betrayal as well, where marital funds are spent on someone outside the marriage without the other partner’s knowledge or consent. 

Betrayals also take place between friends, family members, or acquaintances when secrets get unknowingly shared, lies are told, or misinformation is spread. A common form of betrayal between people is what’s known as “lies of omission” where crucial information is simply not told. 

Other examples of betrayal include corporate, or professional betrayal, where you believe, expect, or have been told that something will happen if you live up to certain expectation. Many of us presume that performing up to standards means that we will keep our jobs, earn pay increases over time, or be rewarded in some other way. So, when we get fired, receive a so-so review, or find out that the person we spent six months training was promoted ahead of us, we naturally feel betrayed.

Another way that betrayal sneaks up on us is within our own bodies. Whether it’s through aging and no longer recognizing the person staring back at us in the mirror, an accident, illness, or injury that takes away our ability to do something that we love – or the time we thought we had – it’s easy to feel betrayed by our own bodies.

Betrayal Symptoms

Overcoming betrayal is a process that takes time and intention, but it is not impossible! The first step is recognizing that you have been betrayed. Ask yourself, Am I reeling because my expectations were crushed? If the answer is yes, you have been betrayed! 

Next, it’s important to identify, feel, and acknowledge the wide variety of feelings and emotions that pop up after betrayal. Create time and space to be alone, without interruption or distraction, even if it’s only for a few minutes a day. Breathe deeply, relax your body, go within, and allow yourself to feel. Whether it’s rage, grief, shame, embarrassment, or tears, imagine those emotions coming up from your belly, moving through your body, and out the top of your head, fingers, and toes. Let the waves continue until they subside, take a shower to “cleanse” away any residue, and go about the rest of your day. Finally, it’s important to seek qualified help from someone who understands betrayal, and to take consistent steps to rebuilding your own self-trust and trust in the world. For more information on healing your own feelings of betrayal, and rebuilding trust with yourself and the world, download The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Everyday & How to Stop at www.BurnoutOrBetrayal.com

An attorney, TedX speaker, and life and leadership coach, Lora Cheadle shows others how to move beyond soothing the symptoms of burnout and recognize and resolve the root cause, which is oftentimes betrayal. Whether that betrayal is from a person, system, changes in one’s body, or the realization that you’ve spent your life in service to a dream that was not your own, Lora show individuals, high performing teams, and groups of leaders how to break free from burnout to create meaning and satisfaction, both personally and professionally, so they can live, express, and create their lives fully before it’s too late. She is the author of the bestselling book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy and Spiritual Self and is the host of the top-rated podcast, FLAUNT! Find Your Sparkle and Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal.

Growing up, I was never allowed to shirk my commitments. If I didn’t feel like going to dance class one evening, my mom would make sure to come up to my room and remind me to get ready to leave. When she picked me up from a voice lesson and noticed how visibly relaxed I was after singing, she would make sure to remind me of the feeling and how if I had decided not to go, I would still be stewing in my teen melodrama.

As much as “I don’t feel like it” or “I don’t like being told what to do”, showing up allows me to execute my gifts in service to a larger purpose outside of my own selfish interests. It holds me accountable both to myself and to my community even though the process of becoming present is anything but glamorous. 

In his latest book, Dedicated: The Case for Commitment in An Age of Infinite Browsing, author Pete Davis discusses how American society (especially millennials) is free floating in an age of endless options and lacking in commitment to real people, places, and projects. Yet he advocates that true change takes the commitment to show up over and over and over again for a long period of time. And as lackluster as committing is, we actually idolize those who commit and wish we could be more like them. 

Teaching a student, advancing a cause, healing a divide, rectifying an injustice, revitalizing a town, solving a hard problem, getting a new project off the ground—they all take time. If change happened quickly, we wouldn’t need commitment—our initial elation or anger would be enough. But when change takes time, we need something more—something that can get us through the boredom, distraction, exhaustion, and uncertainty that can plague any long-haul effort (Davis, 2021, p.17). 

Over the past almost four years in school, there were many, many moments when I wanted to quit. I was sick of being merely a student and missing out on all the fun opportunities that I imagined and realized other people in my life were having. There have been so many instances of boredom, distraction, exhaustion, and uncertainty. But being on the other side of my educational journey, I am proud of all that I have achieved and so glad that I stuck with it even when “I didn’t feel like it”. 

When clients first come to see me, I can practically feel their unspoken expectation about immediate relief radiating off their skin. Sometimes there is immediate relief in that clients suddenly feel heard and seen in ways that they have not experienced in the rest of their lives. And I often have to provide psychoeducation about the time it takes to create a therapeutic relationship which fosters emotional processing. It takes time. Curating an atmosphere of mutual trust and understanding takes times. Outlining the duration, frequency, and symptomology of a client’s concern takes time. Understanding the root of a behavioral pattern and how it impacts a client’s current relationships takes time. There is no short cut to relating in real space and time, and commitment is the method by which we co-create healing. 

As writer Natalie Goldberg states in her book, Writing Down the Bones: Freeing the Writer Within, “Our bodies are garbage heaps: we collect experience, and from the decomposition of the thrown-out eggshells, spinach leaves, coffee grinds, and old steak bones of our minds come nitrogen, heat, and very fertile soil. Out of this fertile soil bloom our poems and stories. But this does not come all at once. It takes time” (2005, p.15). 

References

Davis, P. (2021). Dedicated: The case for commitment in an age of infinite browsing. Avid Reader Press. 

Goldberg, N. (2005). Writing down the bones: Freeing the writer within. Shambhala Publications.

About Me

Marielle Grenade-Willis is a current counseling intern with People House and a master’s student at the University of Colorado – Denver. With a B.A. in Sociology/Anthropology and a background in dance, dramatic, and vocal performance, she applies a somatic and systemic approach to the individualized work of counseling. Marielle works from a client-centered, experiential, narrative, and trauma-informed perspective with her individual clients. Prior to People House, she worked extensively in nonprofits focused on animal conservation, food access, and refugee welfare; and has had her poems read and published throughout the Front Range and beyond.

Relationship is fraught with high hopes and expectations.  Most of these we are unaware of in ourselves until we discover that our partner is not meeting them.  “If you loved me, then you would know what I need,” we silently believe.  Unbeknown to even ourselves, we are looking for security.  The world is a dangerous place and having a companion that offers a safe haven is a foundational need that love offers.

Love is not a destination.  It is not a rest stop.  It is a long and winding path of challenges and hidden treasures.  Love is an act of creation and movement.  It requires active participation to keep it alive and growing.  Participating in relationship, you begin to find out what you need through the friction of differences as well as the comfort of what is similar.  Love is a journey of discovery about oneself as much as it is about learning about your partner. 

Since a sense of security is a basic need to thrive, how do you go about creating a safe haven in which both of you can feel secure, grow, and flourish?  You start with love as the container of your sacred sanctuary.  It is a place where you protect each other and stand together against the onslaughts and challenges of the world.  You take an active role in learning about each other’s needs and desires and quickly repair hurts that occur between you.  This is the undertaking necessary for a secure functioning relationship.  When two people have a secure functioning relationship, it provides a solid and strong supportive structure that is resilient and adaptable.  These are the relationships that allow each one to grow and these are the relationships with longevity and love that matures into a beautiful fruit of trust.

Trust allows you to enter into life and express your highest self.  When you can count on a companion to be there for you, have your back, and protect the safety of your union, there is a sense of relief and freedom to engage with life.  Trust is not a quality that is automatically bestowed between two people.  It must be cultivated.  There are actions and behaviors involved that build trust.  

Get to Know What Helps Your Partner Feel Safe and Secure 

This is a process that happens with intention and attention over time.  Most people do not come out of childhood or adolescence with complete secure attachment.  This means that we all have wounds and sensitivities, which form feelings of vulnerability in intimate relationships.  These vulnerabilities will be unique to each person depending on his or her prior experiences of relationship.  

Finding out includes asking your partner what helps them feel safe or what they need to feel secure, but they may not know.  Be a detective.  There are behavioral clues when your partner is not feeling safe.  Some people withdraw; others get angry, moody, or melancholic.  Some people want to fight and others disengage or dissociate.  Notice your partner’s emotions and behaviors.  Instead of reacting to their behavior realize that something is amiss.  This is the time for you to give compassionate understanding.  Validate their feelings.  Let them know you are there for them and allow them space.  Patience is priceless.

Get to Know What Helps You Feel Safe and Secure

Being aware of your behaviors and emotions will tell you when you are not feeling safe or secure.  What triggers a sense that you are not safe and how do you respond?  Exploring this facet of yourself will tell you what you need.  You are then able to share with your partner what helps you feel safe and to work with these areas so that you develop inner security. 

Emotional Honesty Empowers Transparency

When you pay attention to your partner’s emotional state and to your own, you are in touch with the tender vulnerable parts of yourself.  It can be difficult to honestly reveal your true feelings for fear that it will disrupt your relationship.  When you are angry, sad or afraid it may seem risky to open up and yet hiding your authentic feelings or keeping secrets distances you from your partner.  Letting go of your inhibitions and defensive stance and revealing your fears, desires and opinions honors you and your relationship.  As you open up there is greater freedom for your partner to be honest as well especially if you create a safe haven by being open and receptive to their thoughts, feelings and opinions.  Compassion expands from letting go of judgment and mutually sharing your inner world.  Differences are welcomed and become curiosities. 

Your Partner Comes First

At the start of your relationship, you spent much of your time together or thinking about one another.  The delicious interest in your partner never seemed like enough.  Over time life and responsibilities take over. Work, children or other pursuits require attention and these can swallow up time that used to be given to your partner.  When things get busy your relationship gets put on the back burner.  Without proper attention the two of you drift off into other interests and people.  This trajectory can find you confiding your daily experiences or sharing important ideas with someone other than your partner.  It may seem innocuous but it will corrode the sense of mutual trust and safety you have built with your loved one.   

Your partner needs to be “your go-to person.”  They need to be the one who hears good or bad news first.  They need to be the one you confide in and who hears your inner thoughts and feelings.  They come first over any person, place, thing or what other people want.  Intimacy is created when you share the significant aspects of your life.  Make sure your partner’s thoughts, feelings and needs take priority.  Make space for emotional connection.  Be there for them when they are stressed or in distress.  When you “have your partner’s back” you resolve differences with them rather than going to someone else.  You don’t gossip, talk bad about them or “throw them under the bus.”  You protect your partner in public and stand by them.  When you disagree with their behavior or opinion, you discuss it when you are alone.  Have an agreement that your relationship takes precedence over either of your need to be right.  This builds safety and trust.

Protect Your “Couple Bubble” from Harm

The term “Couple Bubble” has become ubiquitous.  It is a conscious decision to mutually create a protected safe sanctuary where you can truly relax, find respite from the outside world, and enjoy the comfort of a kind, loving atmosphere.  In order to keep your bubble safe, you are willing to protect it not just from outside forces but from your own demons as well.  No slings and arrows allowed.  Maintaining this environment takes energy and attention.  

Each person contributes by:

• Equally giving and receiving
• Respecting dreams and desires  
• Supporting mental, spiritual, and emotional growth
• Listening to and communicating needs  
• Mutually making important decisions
• Actively engaging in resolution of conflicts
• Allowing time for closeness as well as independence 
• Being thoughtful and showing daily kindness
• Having high regard for the well-being and care of each other

The romantic image of “Happily Ever After” can only happen when two people greet Love and relationship with conscious appreciation and understanding of the path ahead.  I invite you to build a safe and sacred sanctuary filled with love, truth, beauty, trust, harmony and peace where you can authentically be yourself and mutually flourish. 

Dorothy Wallis is a former intern at People House in private practice with an M.A. in Marriage and Family Therapy.  She is a Psychotherapist, Clinical Hypnotherapist and an International Spiritual Teacher at the forefront of the consciousness movement for over thirty years grounded in practices of meditation, family systems, relationships, and emotional growth.  Her work reflects efficacious modalities of alternative approaches to healing for individuals and couples based upon the latest research in science, human energy fields, psychology, and spirituality. 

As a leader in the field of emotional consciousness and the connection to mind, body and spirit, her compassionate approach safely teaches you how to connect to your body, intuition and knowing to clear emotional wounds and trauma at the core.  The powerful Heartfulness protocol empowers your ability to join with your body’s innate capacity to heal through holistic Somatic, Sensory and Emotional awareness.  www.TheDorWay.com and www.Heartfulnesspath.com

Doesn’t it feel wonderful when you know that someone cares for you?  It is a deeply felt knowing that you are not alone in the world.  It is an essential need.  There is a longing to be connected to someone in your life that supports you and has your back.  When you don’t feel “cared for” by your partner you experience disconnection.  A lack of attention and care can leave you feeling unloved and forgotten.  

Biologically we are “wired for connection.”  Humans have a very long dependency period and being cared for is critical in order for a human child to survive.  Caring relationships are basic to human existence and consciousness.  The inherent desire for a companion that cares about our well-being continues throughout life.  

In partner relationships, the desire to be seen, heard and known is fundamental because if we are truly known by another there is a sense that they care for us. We think of healthy attraction beginning with the spark of erotic polarity, which is necessary but unless it includes caring intention from both partners, the sexual attraction will not be enough to hold the relationship together.  Caring intent is essential for intimacy and having a healthy meaningful relationship that lasts.  The absence of being cared about can lead to loneliness, loss of meaning, despair and depression, which is why it is vital to keep the caring connection alive. 

“A Caring person is one Who has Appropriate Motivations to Care for Others and Who Participates Adeptly in Effective Caring Practices”

~ Virginia Held

Caring is an Action

Caring for someone is more than just liking or loving them; it means that you are concerned for their well-being.  Your actions and behaviors include serious attention to protect their health and welfare.  You are interested in looking after their needs and willing to put yourself aside to give to another.  Virginia Held, a philosopher on the ethics of care, describes a caring person “as one who has appropriate motivations to care for others and who participates adeptly in effective caring practices.”  The motivation to care can arise from the initial attraction to another and deepens with the sense of love for another.  A person may “care about” another without knowing how to “care for” another.  

The kind of care you received when you were young will have an affect on the kind of care you expect to receive and the kind of care that you give.  Living in a culture that upholds Independence and self-sufficiency as a high standard has diminished the value of caring to the extent that many people have not learned how to care for others or even for their own deepest needs.  

Knowing what actions and behaviors the person you care about needs in order to feel “cared for,” supported and protected is necessary in order to give healthy caring intent.  This is often where misunderstandings, feelings of discontent, and of not being loved occur in relationship.  One person may truly care about another but have no clue how to show their partner that they care. 

Effective Caring Practices

Commit to the Relationship

All relationships go through periods of harmony and disharmony.  Without a commitment to stay, work through problems and resolve issues there can be an underlying feeling of dissolution at any moment.  Don’t be, “One foot out the door,” whenever there is an issue that arises.  This is a lack of commitment.  The thought that one’s relationship is not solid gives partners a sense of insecurity and the feeling that one’s partner doesn’t really care.  Trust is fractured.

Trust is crucial for security and when both people commit to supporting each other through difficulties intimacy increases and the feeling of care results.  Resolving and repairing issues requires skill.  Commitment entails overcoming your habitual reactions that cause separation and learning the skills of coming back into harmony. 

Connect with Your Partner and Give them Attention

Relationships suffer from absence, inattention and taking your partner for granted.  Have the demands and activities of your life taken precedence over your relationship?  Caring behavior includes attending to the thoughts, feelings, desires and needs of one’s partner.  Once you commit to a relationship you may believe that you have “tied the knot” and are done with the job of giving your partner caring attention.  “I’ve told you I love you, why do you need more?”  Neglect feels like rejection and can silently creep into your relationship.  Absence in the form of neglect and lack of attention does Not make the heart grow fonder.  Distance for short periods of time can create a sense of appreciation and longing….but if you are not making an effort to be with your partner and connect with them or to be there when they need support, you are not valuing them and they will feel the lack of care and concern.

Attention is shown through being present with your partner, focusing on their needs, putting your needs aside and truly listening to them.  You care about how they experience life, what brings them happiness, what their passions are and what they want to pursue.  You understand and empathize when they hurt and support them when they are sad. 

Attention is shown through Daily Actions. Make Appreciating Your Partner a Priority.

• Be Present and consistent.  Our bodies crave the feeling of a trustworthy and reliable partner.
• Connect with your partner every day.  Ask about their day and take time for sharing.  Be curious and interested in what interests them.
• When you are traveling or apart from one another Call, Text, and check in.
• Leave notes of endearment.
• Remember special occasions, dates and events.  Notice what lights up your partner’s face and how they like to celebrate.  Treat Special Days with extra special attention.  Plan ahead. 
• When your partner has a project or event that matters to them be supportive and show your appreciation for their passions.  Make your partner your Priority and what matters to them matter to you.  Be present and drop what you are doing.

Be Emotionally Engaged and Actively Listen

• Make sure your partner is your “Go To Person.”  Create a sacred intimacy between the two of you that no one else shares.  Keep confidences.
• Share your thoughts, ideas, and vulnerabilities.  Open your heart.
• Have common interests and share in social engagements and activities.  Do an activity your partner enjoys even if it is not high on your list.
• Be emotionally intelligent; know your feelings and be willing to share them.
• Regulate your emotions; do not suppress and do not project.
• Validate your partner’s feelings.  Emotions are real; do not ignore, dismiss, or try to change your partner’s feelings.  It is diminishing, hurtful and emotionally abusive.  Instead, accept your partner’s feelings and do your best to understand.
• Actively listen.  Be present and look at them.  Attune yourself to the other person.  Notice their body language and the sound of their voice.  Paraphrase back to them what they said.  Validate their feelings and words.  Ask for clarity if you do not understand.  Show that you are interested in what they are saying.  Don’t numb out. 

Do Acts of Kindness

At the beginning of your relationship, you probably noticed the small gestures that gave your partner joy.  You made their favorite meal, you tidied up your mess, you brought them tea or coffee, you planned a special outing and surprised them, you bought concert tickets to their favorite group and you made sure that when they had a tough day you turned off the television, sat with them and listened.  The day-to-day kindnesses add up.  Each time you do an act of generosity and kindness for your partner, you are adding the positive qualities of love and caring, which enhances your life and theirs.

“And in the End, the Love you Take is Equal to the Love You Make” ~ The Beatles

Value and Cherish Your Partner Every Day

The more you put into the relationship by being generous with your care and attention, the more safety and trust are enhanced.  When you cherish your partner you are valuing your connection of Love. 

Dorothy Wallis is a former intern at People House in private practice with an M.A. in Marriage and Family Therapy.  She is a Psychotherapist, Certified Relational Life Therapist, Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, and an International Spiritual Teacher at the forefront of the consciousness movement for over thirty years grounded in practices of meditation, family systems, relationships, and emotional growth.  Her work reflects efficacious modalities of alternative approaches to healing for individuals and couples based upon the latest research in science, human energy fields, psychology, and spirituality. 

As a leader in the field of emotional consciousness and the connection to mind, body and spirit, her compassionate approach safely teaches you how to connect to your body, intuition and knowing to clear emotional wounds and trauma at the core.  The powerful Heartfulness protocol empowers your ability to join with your body’s innate capacity to heal through holistic Somatic, Sensory and Emotional awareness. 

www.TheDorWay.com and www.Heartfulnesspath.com